When it was first published, in 1990, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was an almost instant bestseller—and became a permanent part of the cultural lexicon. With more than 15 million copies sold in over 33 languages and 75 countries since its first publication, this book continues to help millions of people become more effective—both in their personal and professional lives.
What author Stephen R. Covey advocates is no less than a paradigm shift—a major change in how readers perceive the world. This encompasses time management, proactivity, positive thinking, spiritual life, communication, and more. With compelling anecdotes and penetrating insight on every page, Dr. Covey guides the way to a life lived with integrity, service, dignity, and success—both at home and at work.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
A well-known authority on leadership and family relations, Dr. Stephen R. Covey holds a Bachelor of Science from the University of Utah, an MBA from Harvard, and a PhD from Brigham Young University. He serves as Vice Chairman of FranklinCovey Co., and is an in-demand speaker, teacher, and organizational consultant. Throughout his career, Dr. Covey has brought new insight and understanding to millions of readers and students.
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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen R. Covey Business & Economics Mango Media Inc. January 1, 2016
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is the biggest self help book seller of the last thirty years. And while that doesn’t necessarily mean high quality… It does in this case.
Contents
Full Summary
Real, deep change starts within yourself
Learn to communicate and deal with people: it’s life’s most important skill
Take care of yourself: keep learning, improving and growing
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win / Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Let’s dig deeper:
Part I: Paradigm and Principles
Covey says most people look for quick fixes. They see a big success and want to know how he did it, believing (and hoping) they can do the same following a quick bullet list.
But real change, the author says, comes not from the outside in, but from the inside out. And the most fundamental way of changing yourself is through a paradigm shift. That paradigm shift is a new way of looking at the world. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People presents an approach to effectiveness based on character and principles.
The first three habits indeed deal with yourself because it all starts with you. The first three habits move you from dependence from the world to the independence of making your own world. Habits 4, 5 and 6 are about people and relationships. The will move you from independence to interdependence. Such, cooperating to achieve more than you could have by yourself. The last habit, habit number 7, focuses on continuous growth and improvement.
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Part II: Private Victory
Habit 1: Be Proactive
You Create Your Reality: You’re In Charge
Proactive is not what most people would think it is. For Covey being proactive means exercising your power of choice between the stimulus you receive from the world and your response. If you feel down it’s because you allowed the stimulus to bring you down.
The author quotes Viktor Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning, when he says:
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom
This is also a major stoic philosophy pillar which Ryan Holiday also renders in his fantastic The Obstacle is The Way.
Focus On What You Can Control
Covey introduces the “circle of control” to represent all that we care about. We can only influence a portion of what we care about, and that’s where we should be focusing on. Focusing on anything else means focusing on what the author calls “the circle of concerns”. Focusing on what we cannot control is a waste of time and energy. And often also spoils our mood because it takes the form of worrying and complaining.
Ironically, the more you focus on the things you can control, the more your abilities and skills improve. Which in turn will further enlarge your circle of influence.
To start mentally shifting your focus into the circle of influence the author suggests you stop using “if” sentences such as “if only I had…” and start using instead “be” sentences, such as “I can be more..”
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Start Creating Your Reality
Beginning with the end in mind means being clear about who you want to be and where you want to gp. And then travel that path.
Habit two is based on imagination and on the idea that two different forms of creation exist: mental creation and physical creation. The mental creation comes first, and the physical creation follows the mental one. Covey says that if you are not clear about the mental creation of where you want to be you are the mercy of randomness and circumstances.
Personal End in Mind: Principles
Covey recommends that as much as you think about your life goals, you also think about who you want to be. When you have that clear, you can draft principles and values in accordance to that person (check Principles to see Ray Dalio’s). With your principles and values clear you will approach life and all the events in your life with a high level of clarity and confidence.
Aligning Life and Principles
To make sure your life goals and personal principles are aligned Covey recommends you write a personal missions statement. The mission statement should answer the questions “who do you want to be and what you do want to accomplish”.
My Note: this chapter reminded me of the auto suggestion chapter in Think and Grow Rich.
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Part III: Public Victory
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Time Management is Life Management: Put Your Life Priorities First
Habit three is all about prioritization. If you follow the steps of Habit 1 and 2 then you have your values and life goal very clear. This means you know what are your priorities.. And which are not.
Basically, your first and major prioritization is through the filter of your life goals.
Once you have a burning desire to become and do what you want your yeses will also clearly show what are your nos. That’s the bedrock of prioritization.
The Time Quadrant
Dovey introduces the now famous time quadrant. To effectively manage your time you should spend most of your time on non urgent and important tasks. This way you will rarely have to deal with urgent and important tasks, which heighten your stress and often deliver sub-bar results.
Habit 4: Think Win / Win
Covey says that win/win is a character based approach to human interactions.
To achieve this level, you must first acquire three essential character traits:
Integrity (sticking with who you are: feelings, values)
Maturity (expressing your ideas and feelings with a balance of courage and consideration)
Abundance mentality (life is no zero sum, there’s plenty for all)
I particularly liked that the author stresses the importance of integrity in the sense of aligning yourself with your public actions. Read here how to acquire framework self esteem based on your identity.
The author says most people think in terms of either/or: it’s either you’re nice (and a push over) or you’re tough (and get you own way). This is what Brene Brown calls Viking or Victim mentality in Daring Greatly. Maturity instead is that happy balance in between. It requires you be empathic and confident, considerate and brave, all at the same time.
Social Bank Account
Covey talks about human relationships in terms of emotional and human balance. He says when you approach life with a win / win mindset, you always treat people well and you make deposits in your emotional bank. If one day something goes wrong and you need a withdrawal, you can count on years of systematical balance surpluses. And people will be happy to help you.
This theory reflects the view of social interactions as exchanges, with which I agree with (check my article for more).
Other Interaction Scenarios
These are all subpar approaches:
Win / Lose (egoistical and authoritarian)
Lose / Win (too nice and pushover)
Lose / Lose (when two Win / Lose butt heads)
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Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Covey says that communication is the most important skill in life. And we are all heavily under-trained in listening. Indeed, very few people even listen at all. Which is a pity, because the foundation of influencing people is to first understand them.
Covey says there are four levels of listening:
Ignoring
Pretending to listen
Attentive listening
Empathic listening
Even most good listeners stop at the third level of attentive listening. Attentive listening entails the following:
Evaluating: judge and then agree or disagree
Probing: ask question from own frame of reference
Advising: advising based on own frame of reference
Interpreting: interpreting his action and feelings based on own frame of reference
Empathic Listening
Empathic listening removes your own frame of reference as much as possible. It looks at their body language, the tone of voice and nonverbal gestures. Ultimately empathic listening means putting yourself in their shoes feeling what they’re feeling. This is key because before people can move to solutions they need to feel you understand them.
To be understood the author advises not to start and communicate with just logic but to explain where you’re coming from emotionally as well.
My Note: I agree. Trying to completely take emotions away might seem “stronger” but ultimately destroys relationships (see the emotionally unavailable men article).
Further reading Dale Carnegie proposes the same approach in How To Win Friends and Influence People. And if you want to read practical applications in conversations I recommend the books Crucial Conversations and Difficult Conversations. Or check all my summaries on communication.
Habit 6: Synergize
A Team is Stronger Than an Individual
The idea of synergizing is that the whole of a well functioning team is greater than the mere sum of its part.
The key to an effective group synergy, says the author, is to really value the differences among us. So ask yourself: do you want to be right, do you want everyone to agree? Learn to embrace differences as a strength instead.
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Synergy also entails “flow” and perfect group automation as if the group was functioning as one. That’s when you achieve top results.
Part IV: Renewal
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Take Care of Your Greatest Asset: Yourself
No habits in the world will take you far unless you preserve, take care and keep improving on yourself. Covey recommends you focus on the four major dimensions of your life:
Physical: exercise, nutrition and rest
Social/Emotional: meaningful human connections (check my Social Mastery Guide)
Mental: learning, visualizing, acquiring new knowledge
Spiritual: art, meditation, music, time in nature, prayer and service
He says it’s important you commit some time for each one dimension. And he’s right.
Remember You Have The Ultimate Trump Card Nobody can make you feel bad if you don’t allow them. Your mind is yours, you wield the ultimate power.
Build Your Future (You) Think about the (wo)man you want to be and what you want to have. And then forge your path to get there. On the way, keep your eyes on the ball. Meaning:
Prioritize What Matters To You Do and spend time on the things you care for and that will lead you to where you want to be. Don’t allow circumstances to sidetrack you. Do you really like what you’re doing? Is what you’re doing taking you where you want to be? If not, change.
Some Key Mindsets Missing The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People is so successful that I’m afraid some people might not read anything else. And in all its greatness, it’s also missing a few key mindsets for self-development. A growth mindset, for example, is a key element missing (check here how to develop a growth mindset)
The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People is a fantastic book. I would say it’s a must-read.
The last thing I’d like you to notice is that Stephen Covey says even today, more than a decade after he wrote the book, still struggles with the principles. It’s a constant practice, he says. The better you get, the more you see you can do better.